John say:
I am 31 years old and fit - I have self diagnosed myself with performance anxiety. I had a girlfriend from the ages of 19-27 and it never occured with her. I had started dating after our breakup and at first had no problems. It all started with this one girl, who I may not have been attracted to. I couldn't get it up. So, I contributed it to not being attracted to her. I would date some more and sometimes it worked and sometimes it didn't. It started getting in my head. I got to the point where I was scared to have sex for fear of failure. So, I started using Viagra and it really has done wonders for me. I am a lot more confident now, but I don't enjoy the fact that I am using the drug. I have tried having sex without Viagra and all would go well until I would start getting in my head again while doing it. A feeling would overwhelm me and I would lose my erection. Does anyone have any advise for how I can overcome my fears???

riftalope say:
Here's an idea. Don't eat before sex. Seriously, be over an hour away from your last meal and keep in your mind that you're covered. Go ahead and start. If you start going soft you can pop a V and water, then give her your attention with more imagination until you get turned on again. Should be another twenty to forty minutes. That's a lot of licking, so keep the water handy.